Just ask a butterfly — or a swan. Yet for most of us, the concept of change is frightening, because it means we have to come to grips with the reality that nothing stays the same.
For example, ten minutes ago, when I glanced out my window, the sun was shining, spreading warmth and light across my backyard. Then a cloud bank rolled in, extinguishing the sunny rays and dimming the brightness. A dreary, grey palette layered the sky, quickly muting the vibrant landscape.
And no doubt in a few more minutes, the view will change again, perhaps offering just…
When life is grand, we’re feeling good about life and our satisfaction level escalates. And we quickly give credit to what we believe to be the source of our current success — an entity or concept we can count on that guarantees a repeat performance, without much help or effort on our part.
And if rotten tomatoes head our way and splatter all over our freshly-laundered shirt? We blame everything and everyone in sight. Because when our life circumstances go south, we immediately start looking for a scapegoat.
And frankly, I’m not sure either strategy is realistic — or desirable.
“A person is a fool to become a writer. His only compensation is absolute freedom. He has no master except his own soul, and that, I am sure, is why he does it.” — Roald Dahl
The reality of a life already jam-packed with responsibilities and obligations creates a challenge when it comes to accommodating my desire to create. Because there are only so many waking hours, and only so many balls I can juggle at once — without creating a huge mess.
It’s a question of guilt — the internal wagging finger and raised eyebrow sending a warning that…
We’re overwhelmed, our too-tight schedules leaving little time to figure out the big picture, much less the priorities of the moment — or the next day. Many of us find ourselves repeatedly asking the same questions, to no one in particular. For example:
The absence of an immediate answer can cause disappointment, lethargy, and a general sense that we’re not getting anywhere in our lives. …
Recently, I downsized my living space — embracing a more streamlined, organized lifestyle — and, in general, made a few alterations and adjustments intended to simplify my life.
My personal forward motion, while not always easy to implement, was long overdue. After residing in another state for 30 years, I was ready to leave my no-longer-rewarding accumulations of predictability and repetition. I wanted the opportunity to explore new places and meet new people while experiencing — and appreciating — the influence of a different regional history and culture.
Exploring new terrain and the opportunities of my new surroundings encouraged me…
For me, opening the door to a conversation provides a form of connection that seems to be missing in so many of our lives.
But finding others to verbally engage with isn’t always a simple task. The reality is, in our hands-off tech-savvy culture, most folks would rather set their eyes on a screen, click a few keys, and hit send or share.
While some forms of written communication — email, text, posting on a roulette wheel of social media platforms — have a place and purpose in our modern world, these options often result in a level of separation…
Some day you will find out that there is far more happiness in another’s happiness than in your own. — Honore de Balzac
A couple of weeks ago, I was doing research for a story and ran across an article that caught my eye. As I read through the piece, I noticed the writer had used the phrase, “being comfortable in your own skin.”
Made popular years ago, the expression encouraged an attitude of acceptance, promoting a guiltless surrender to flaws and imperfections in physical appearance.
For example, activities and places visited in the past without a second thought — movie theaters, gyms, nightclubs, parties, concerts, and other “close encounter” venues — have become cautious considerations, if not completely off-limits.
A visit to the grocery store or a restaurant may require wearing a mask and keeping our distance from others while knowing there’s still a risk of infection.
As naturally hormone-infused humans, we’ve also been deprived of one of our most basic instincts and drives — the need to connect with others in a physical and meaningful way.
I know it may be a bit early…
Maybe you’re not sure what to order from the menu, and your server makes a few suggestions. Or you’re shopping for shoes or a jacket or a backpack, and you’re immediately approached by a helpful coordinator who’s ready to fill your closet with the newest trendy line.
“Face reality as it is, not as it was or as you wish it to be.” — Jack Welch
Every day, I remind myself that everything I’ve learned so far is the result of past experiences. I cling to this mindset, believing my current knowledge is reliable, and securely contained in a virtual database in my mind —a collection of information I can easily access, sort, and retrieve at any time.
My mental storehouse is filled with events, circumstances, people, and situations at the ready, waiting to raise their hands and be called upon. …