Jill Reid

Mindset/Productivity

Move forward in a positive direction with confidence

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girl with long brown hair wearing sleeveless pink top with eyes closed and arms stretched over her head
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Why is it so many of us fumble at the finish line?

We have a sense of what we want — the end goal — but too often, the prize eludes us. And frankly, we have no one to blame but ourselves.

In an article by Royston Guest on the subject, he writes:

“Having a strategy is about making sure you are in the driver’s seat with a clear vision of where it is you want to get to, why…


Relationships

Keeping conflict, ego, and blame off the table is the key to happiness

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Couple sitting on picnic table facing each other with interlaced legs
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My husband and I are remodeling an older home, and so far we’re still talking.

It’s not the first time we’ve taken on this type of project.

About 15 years ago, we renovated a handful of tired, weary houses into beautiful welcoming homes for new families to enjoy. My husband’s background in construction and my knack for creating and designing interior spaces seemed like a good match — one that would give us the opportunity to spend more time together and strengthen our bond.

So we jumped in with both feet, a positive attitude, and crossed fingers.

While we had a reasonable degree of knowledge about construction — and were willing and able to do most of the work ourselves — there were a lot…


Education

The cause, effect, and consequences of conforming to a pre-determined curriculum.

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three young men sitting on steps looking at cell phones and sleeping
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One of my favorite podcasts is Akimbo with host, Seth Godin. An intellectual explorer in the pursuit of excellence, success, and personal responsibility, Seth uses the query to effectively demonstrate the faults and shortcomings in our current educational system.

And his observation is a disturbingly valid one.

It seems in the current culture, most students concentrate on what they need to remember to pass the exam — stretching their minds only as far as necessary to receive a passing grade. …


Find peace of mind in the hidden message of your dreams

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girl with brown hair and green eyes wearing dark hat holding leaf in front of her face
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According to an article by Annie Wright in Evergreen Counseling, dreams have messages for us:

“While different schools of thought believe that dreams exist for varied reasons, I personally believe that dreams are portals and entryways to our psyches and that some of the richest, most valuable information we need about situations in our waking lives can be found by exploring the content of your dreams.”

Last night, I had one of those dreams.

Complete with color and sound, the setting and surrounding details seemed normal, even realistic. There were no wispy edges or cloudy, shadowy figures. …


Whether a burning desire or flight of fancy, writing takes courage

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smiling girl with long brown hair wearing black leather jacket standing on sidewalk and looking up to sky
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It’s usually on the list of most people’s dream occupation — being a writer. There seems to be something mystical, even esoteric about the profession.

Why?

Maybe it’s the fantasized notion of creating unique masterpieces, or being able to write on an independent schedule — without a boss or supervisor — and having the freedom to take a day off whenever the mood strikes.

And while writing is a noble and rewarding endeavor, the truth is many may not have a true calling. Or patience.

It takes more than a naive interest to sit down and express your thoughts to…


Mindset

Readjust to your surroundings

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rear view of three girls facing blue and white stripe wall and holding hands
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How often do we rely on our memories of the past to make a decision?

Almost every day. And in most cases, things work out okay and our expectations are met. For example, the chicken salad we order for lunch every Tuesday, the shortcut we take to work, and the selection of organic veggies at the local market offer no surprises. Because they’re a given — and something we take for granted from past experience.

But how do we deal with…


Mindset

Consideration, encouragement, and commitment are within our personal reach

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smiling man wearing blue jean jacket and blue knit hat in front of brick wall
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Our evolving culture demands transformation, and at a much quicker pace than in the past.

Most of the time, when faced with adjustments in our lives, the results turn out okay — even good or great. And occasionally, the hurdles placed in our path seem more like a test with open-ended, rhetorical questions, often leaving us with a sense of confusion or lack of direction.

So how do we guide ourselves through the inevitable transitions affecting our focus and goals — with as little discomfort as possible?

The answer may lie in your perspective of the situations and people around you. Because we all have a choice in determining how to interpret the circumstances in our lives.

And with this personal control…


Responsibility

The degree to which you’re willing to bend may be relative to how much the other side resists

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two smiling girls with brown hair sitting in open back of car
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When it comes to expiration dates, interpretation is the key.

Most everything has a date of expiration — packaged foods, medications, 2-for-1 special offers, car warranties, even our bodies — but that’s a subject for another story.

So what does that have to do with keeping promises?

An article in Exploring Your Mind explains it this way:

“Some people break promises time and again. They chip away at your trust, little by little, and leave you nothing but empty words…


Mindset

Set your positivity compass in the right direction

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smiling girl with brown hair wearing glasses and shots jumping in the air
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Toxic thoughts.

You don’t even know they exist. Because they’ve found a way to sneak into your subconscious without you noticing — taking up residence and eager to slip into your daily thought patterns.

Negative stealth bombs, waiting to explode.

And without recognizing their influence, these destructive intruders have found a way to adjust your attitude and behavior. And it’s time for them to pack their bags and hit the road.

In an article by Henrik Edberg in The Positivity Blog, the author says:

“Negativity that wells up inside of…


Life Lessons/Creativity/Truth

Everyone has a story to tell

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smiling girl with long blonde hair wearing long sleeve orange sweater standing on railroad tracks
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A penny for your thoughts.

A simple, benign phrase you may have heard several times in your life, typically from someone attempting to engage you in conversation when you’re distracted from the present moment.

You may have even spoken the words yourself.

Perhaps you’ve noticed another person’s attention has drifted, and they have that glazed, dreamy look in their eyes. Your curiosity is aroused, enough to offer them a small payment to share with you exactly what’s so interesting that keeps their focus engaged — and diverted from those around them.

While a polite gesture, interrupting someone’s daydreaming session with these five words may not always garner the…

Jill Reid

Author of “Real Life” & “Discover Your Personal Truth” | Writing on life, relationships, happiness, health, & personal success — http://bit.ly/RealLifeBook

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