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Jill Reid
Author of “Real Life” & “Discover Your Personal Truth” | Writing on life, relationships, happiness, health, & personal success — http://RealLifeBookSeries.com

Mindset

And a few suggestions to bring a little joy into your life.

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smiling woman with long brown hair wearing short sleeve blue top
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Seems like most people are looking for ways to be happy.

We’re desperate for answers, having tried all the options for finding inner peace and tranquility — and discovering few if any that provide any sense of relief from our dismal state of minds.

We’re Searching For Ways to Recapture a Cheerful and Optimistic Mindset.

Because the ability to enjoy life with a positive attitude has slipped through our fingers, leaving many of us feeling frustrated, confused, and empty. …


Find peace of mind in the hidden message of your dreams

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girl with brown hair and green eyes wearing dark hat holding leaf in front of her face
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According to an article by Annie Wright in Evergreen Counseling, dreams have messages for us:

“While different schools of thought believe that dreams exist for varied reasons, I personally believe that dreams are portals and entryways to our psyches and that some of the richest, most valuable information we need about situations in our waking lives can be found by exploring the content of your dreams.”

Last night, I had one of those dreams.

Complete with color and sound, the setting and surrounding details seemed normal, even realistic. There were no wispy edges or cloudy, shadowy figures. …


Writing

Develop resolve, commitment, and guts to survive the realities of the profession

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Whether you’re considering the profession or in the midst of a passionate embrace with your muse, there are certain undeniable facts about writing that eventually make themselves known. Like pockets of desperate air released from the seabed, these truth bubbles float toward the calm surface, ultimately bursting with the pressure of reality.

For most of us, the unavoidable hurdles don’t matter

Because we’re committed, compelled, and fueled by inspiration. Writing is in our blood, and we won’t — can’t — give up on our dream. Even if we attempt to push aside those stories which must be…


Personal Development

Temporarily suspending your beliefs has a few drawbacks.

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smiling girl with long hair standing in field wearing sleeveless white top and checkered shirt
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Who Are You, Really?

Interesting question, and one worth exploring.

When asked, many of us would fill in the blank by describing what we do for a living, the hobbies we enjoy, or the groups and clubs we participate in. And while this type of information may provide an initial impression to others of how we spend our time, it doesn’t really answer the query.

In an article by Crystal Raypole on Healthline, she writes: “Occasional emotional suppression generally won’t cause problems as long as you eventually work through them in…


Whether a burning desire or flight of fancy, writing takes courage

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smiling girl with long brown hair wearing black leather jacket standing on sidewalk and looking up to sky
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It’s usually on the list of most people’s dream occupation — being a writer. There seems to be something mystical, even esoteric about the profession.

Why?

Maybe it’s the fantasized notion of creating unique masterpieces, or being able to write on an independent schedule — without a boss or supervisor — and having the freedom to take a day off whenever the mood strikes.

And while writing is a noble and rewarding endeavor, the truth is many may not have a true calling. Or patience.

It takes more than a naive interest to sit down and express your thoughts to…


Life Lessons

How to strip away the barriers keeping you from fully immersing in life

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back view of two girls wearing denim jackets and flowers in their hair with arms around each other
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As youngsters, many of us thought we were geniuses.

Living in our small contained worlds, we had little to compare ourselves to.

And while our individuality was still in the formative stages, our open and unbridled perspective often led us to experiment a bit — usually by fearlessly trying new things.

In our semi-innocence, we tested the edges of our boundaries, the innocence of our youth encouraging our free-spirited nature and inquisitive minds to wander into unknown territory.

But it wasn’t all flowers, frogs, and butterflies. …


Discover your personal truth

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smiling girl with long dark hair wearing black shirt and pants standing in middle of railroad tracks
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What is it about facing the truth that scares us?

From our earliest memories, we’re taught to be honest and forthcoming in our relationships with others. We’re admonished for telling lies and cautioned against concealing knowledge or information that could impact another’s perceptions or decisions in a negative way.

We’re encouraged to “just be ourselves,” because without fully revealing our thoughts, no one would know who we truly are.

But despite those early admonitions, few of us practice full disclosure. We hold back, often presenting a public persona that is very different from our genuine selves.

And it begs the question …

How did our inclination to withhold the truth — to use deception if necessary — evolve into common behavior in the way we communicate…


In response to a reader’s question …

Hi, Emily - thank you for reading the article “4 Reasons to be Honest About Your Feelings and Live an Authentic Life. I really appreciate that you took the time to add your thoughts and question.

When it comes to being authentic and overcoming the hurdles preventing us from revealing our inner thoughts and needs, I discovered two simple words that keep me on track - and genuine - when I’m about to be corralled into a situation or activity that’s clearly not right: "For Me."

Since integrating "for me" into my communication…


Relationships/Health

Touchy-feely people are having a real problem these days

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side view of girl with long blonde hair sitting on wooden dock
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The social nature of our culture has shifted. And this unnatural environment has made me uncomfortable for quite some time.

Every day we’re reminded to heed health and medical safeguards, practice physical barriers — real and imagined, and adopt cautious dictates that have widened the gulf of human interaction.

And these new protocols have raised my stress levels to new highs.

As a touchy-feely person, I’m an advocate of the positive nature of personal connection.

Whether in the form of a hug, or holding another’s hand, or simply sitting side-by-side touching shoulders, the depth and breadth of our instinctual desire to connect can’t be taken lightly.

And having to eliminate this most basic —…


Success/Responsibility/Personal Growth

Doing the easy things first won’t get the job done.

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girl with long dark hair wearing blue plaid shirt holding sunglasses laying on wooden deck
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Do you find yourself doing all the easy things first, hoping the hard stuff will go away?

When faced with an overwhelming list of to-do items, there are several options to consider when managing your time and efforts. For example, some folks prefer doing all the easy things first, hoping this strategy will provide them with a sense of accomplishment — and the motivation to tackle the tough stuff.

But what if most of the simple tasks should really be done at the end — the cleanup, so to speak, after the majority of the work has been completed and…

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